How to teach your kids to be more self reliant
Any teacher of low income inner city kids will tell you that they are the most self reliant kids.
They live that way because they don’t know any other way!
To quote Bruce Lee, you can “absorb what is useful, discard the rest ” from that example
PS. I’m a 3rd generation Bruce Lee student- still passing lessons on.
We want children to make mistakes, but they need to be manageable mistakes that they can recover from.
Tattoos, piercings, and unwanted pregnancies are not what we would consider manageable mistakes because they are permanent.
Ask what they could do differently next time and remind them that they are welcome to use their own money to buy another.
Your kids will never truly appreciate you making a meal for them until they learn how much work it actually is and what you sacrificed to make it happen.
Have them make their own breakfast, and prepare their own lunch.
You’ll find they naturally express new level of gratitude when you cook something for them.
As a bonus they will also tend to be less picky eaters because they participated in the process.
Similar games later applied to his lunchbox, school bag, etc..
Celebrate their wins, and place very little emphasis on their failures – just let the natural consequences be the lesson.
Remember, what makes them successful is not what you do for them- it’s what you have taught them to do for themselves.